Friday, April 30, 2010

Worried Dad...

Hazel is having a low placenta and she just seen a gynea today. Our normal gynea was not around and she was recommended to go to another gynea for a check up to see if she and baby is fine. Scans are showing that the baby is fine. Baby is now at about 371g and babycenter sg states that at 21 weeks it should be at about 360g. Since he is heavier, I guess it looks ok. However she is given hospitalization leave for bed rest. I am really concerned and worried. Did some search around the net since I could not be present during her visit today and ask the doctor questions.

WALL OF TEXT WARNING!

Quote from Babyworld

Low-lying placenta

In the majority of pregnancies, the placenta forms in the top half of the womb. In some cases, however, it forms in the lower half, so that it lies partly or completely over the cervix, blocking the baby's way out of the womb. This is known as a low-lying placenta (or placenta praevia).

The position of your placenta can be shown by an ultrasound scan. If you have a scan in the first half of your pregnancy that shows that your placenta is low-lying, this isn't usually any cause for concern. As many as one in four placentas may be low-lying in mid-pregnancy. The likelihood is that as your womb gets bigger, the placenta will move up (it doesn't actually 'move' as such, but as the womb grows, the area to which the placenta is attached stretches upwards, away from the cervix). If your placenta is shown to be low-lying in mid-pregnancy, you're likely to be offered another scan later on (usually around 32-34 weeks) to check that it has moved. Only 0.5 per cent -1 per cent of placentas remain low-lying at the end of pregnancy. However, when this happens, it can cause problems.

What problems does it cause?

The main problem that a low-lying placenta can cause is bright red bleeding from the vagina during the later stages of pregnancy. The bleeding may stop and start at first, and is painless. It happens because the lower part of your womb is starting to change shape and thin out in readiness for your baby to be born, but because the placenta can't stretch in the same way, it peels away at the edges, which causes bleeding.

At first, the bleeding is usually slight, but there's a risk that it might become heavy at any time without warning. Heavy bleeding may be accompanied by signs of shock - paleness, sweating and an increased pulse.

If you haven't had a scan that has shown the position of your placenta and you experience this kind of bleeding, it may be an indication that the placenta is low-lying. Another sign that you might have a low-lying placenta is that your baby is lying in an awkward position in your womb - for example from side to side, or at an angle.

Will it harm my baby?

Having a low-lying placenta won't in itself harm your baby. If it causes bleeding, the blood comes from the mother, not from the baby, although it's occasionally possible that the baby might lose some blood too. Sometimes, however, if the bleeding is serious, it's necessary to deliver the baby early.

What can be done about it?

Unless the low-lying placenta causes bleeding, there is nothing that needs to be done about it. However, if you have any bleeding at any time, consult your doctor immediately. If he or she suspects that the bleeding is due to a low-lying placenta, you will be advised to have an ultrasound scan. If the diagnosis is confirmed by the scan, the treatment will depend on exactly where the placenta is lying, how many weeks pregnant you are, and how much bleeding you've had.

If the placenta is lying across the cervix, there's a very high risk that you'll experience more bleeding, which could be extremely heavy and put both you and your baby's lives at risk. Because of this you'll almost certainly be advised to stay in hospital until your baby is born. There's still a possibility that the placenta may move away from the cervix, but this becomes less likely as your pregnancy advances. You may be offered repeated scans to check whether the placenta is moving or not. If it doesn't move, the only way that your baby can be born is by Caesarean. This will usually be carried out at around 38 weeks.

If the placenta is only partly over the cervix, you'll probably still be advised to stay in hospital for the rest of your pregnancy because of the risk that you might bleed at any time. You'll need to discuss with your doctor whether to have the baby normally or by Caesarean. Some doctors will always recommend a Caesarean because of the risk of bleeding with a normal birth.

Quote from bellybelly

After an ultrasound, you may be told that you have a low-lying placenta or your placenta may be covering your cervix, meaning the placenta has implanted low down in your uterus. This is reported in around 5% of pregnancies at the 18-20 week scan. There is no need to worry if you are amongst this 5% – you can continue your daily activities as per normal unless you have been advised otherwise.

In your third trimester (until around 36 weeks) the bottom part of your uterus does most of it's growing and stretching, taking the placenta with it. It doesn't 'migrate' upwards, but being attached to the uterine wall, it's carried upwards with it. In 0.5% of cases, the placenta doesn't move up with the uterus – so given that small percent, there is an extremely good chance that your placenta will not be covering your cervix when it's time to give birth, enabling you to have a vaginal birth.

If you have a low lying placenta at 18-20 weeks, this does not mean you need a caesarean section. The placenta will highly likely move as mentioned above. The uterus still has much growing to do, so an ultrasound late in your third trimester will give you and your carer a better picture on what's really going on and if it really is of concern.

Placenta Praevia

Placenta Praevia (which means placenta first) is a rare condition which occurs in around 0.5% of pregnancies. Instead of implanting on the uterine wall, the placenta implants partly or wholly over the cervix.

How Do I Know If I Have Placenta Praevia?

Placenta Praevia is usually detected by ultrasound and/or bleeding in pregnancy. The first bleed most commonly occurs at around 34-38 weeks of pregnancy, but may occur sooner or later than this. It doesn't always lead to pre-term birth, but it is more common. Some women never experience any bleeding at all but any painless blood loss should be reported.

It is important to be reminded that it's the mothers blood which is lost, not the babies. The more centrally the placenta is situated over the cervix, the earlier the haemorrhage and the greater the amount of blood lost.

What Causes Placenta Praevia?

The cause is often unknown and is less common in first pregnancies. Placenta Praevia may be found in multiple pregnancies as a result of a larger surface area of the placenta, or from scarring on the lining of your uterus from a previous caesarean section or curette etc. Some studies have recently shown that those using ART (assisted reproductive technology) to be another possibility for Placenta Praevia. The late implantation of the fertilised ovum i.e. conception late in the cycle, will result in the fertilised ovum settling in lower down the uterine wall than if conception takes place at ovulation where it settles in high up in the uterine cavity. It has also been suggested that doctors are inserting embryos lower in the uterus to aim for higher success rates.

Given that caesarean sections are on the increase, along with ART, this may see an increase in the incidence of Placenta Praevia.

What If I Have Placenta Praevia?

If you have Placenta Praevia, you will likely need to birth your baby by caesarean section depending on the grade or degree of Placenta Praevia. You may be able to birth vaginally if you have a grade 1 or 2 Placenta Praevia, however if you have grades 3 or 4, a caesarean section will be necessary. This wont be booked in immediately, if you don't go into labour before hand, you will likely be booked in at around 38 weeks when your baby is more mature. If you go into labour prior to this you will need an emergency caesarean. A grade 4 Placenta Praevia will often mean being admitted to hospital at the first bleed and remaining as an inpatient until birth.

Some women may find the thought of a caesarean upsetting, not being able to birth their baby vaginally and may feel like their birth will be a failure. However birthing your baby by caesarean is not a failure – it's the safest way (perhaps only way!) to bring your baby into the world and is the safest way for mum too. If you have trouble dealing with your emotions, it's important to seek the help of an experienced psychologist or support groups for caesarean healing.

And many more sites documenting this...

So far, I think I can summarize the following.
  • At 21st week, low placenta might not be low later on since there is chances that after the tummy grows, the placenta will move up.
  • Need to monitor it
  • Avoid LONG durations of standing (darling...see this!!!)
  • Be easy on your body, slow movements

I said before that I am not superstitious but it is times like this that it is better to believe than not......

Please bless Hazel and baby to be healthy and let her have a normal enjoyable pregnancy.

Thursday, April 29, 2010

4th Jan 2010 - The Sign

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This is the sign. She is pregnant! This was actually taken way back on 4th January 2010. Even though we are not the superstitious sort, we didn't really inform much people around us that she is expecting. I think this is one of the rare times that I actually follow some kind of tradition. Guess we just wanna play safe. ^_^

We actually count our blessings since we did not try too long and she managed to conceive. My mum keeps telling me horror stories of my cousin not being able to conceive despite trying for years and we should start to try. I think the fact is that we both wanted to have more private time after our marriage before getting a baby. Once the newborn is here, everything else changes. It will be our lives most life changing event.

Do you actually know that coffee improve sperm mobility? In a study conducted, caffeine can increase the sperm motility with regular intake and thus increase the chance of conception. So go drink more coffee now! I am a coffee lover! Haha.

Now...we just enjoy the babymoon!~

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

The birds and the bees - MRI version



Chanced upon this whilst goggling around for baby/pregnancy related stuff.

"Magnetic resonance imaging of male and female genitals during coitus and female sexual arousal."

What a BIG title!

Pretty neat and interesting stuff. I didn't know they can do it during MRI?!

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A typical MRI machine. So...you wonder what mad scientist thought of doing an experiment squeezing two person in something like this?

CRAZY!

Baby Name

That will be a headache. Where do I start? How did you start? I think I need to start asking around my friends how on earth did they get their children name. Having an English name is rather easy for me, it is just a matter of choosing what both Hazel and myself likes. Something easy, nice, not too fancy, does not sound rude, modern, not the following (Peter, Jack, Kelvin, Alvin, Melvin, Alan,) <= my generation names, you get the drift.

One interesting local site for english names ----> HERE

But the biggest headache will most probably be the chinese name. There are like thousands of combination. Mine was from a monk if I so do recall correctly and I am quite sure one of the words is not found in the chinese dictionary. Most importantly, I am not the kind that likes to go to those geomancer and get the name foretold...."WHOA". Me = non believer. Similar to the western name, the Chinese name should be a relative easy one. I kinda hate my Chinese name. SO MANY STROKES! When it is coming to exams, my hands already got tired from writing my name! Plus, it sounds feminine and I would want my boy to feel that way when he grows up.

Anyway, I did some goggling around for Chinese baby names and chanced upon a recommendation on this particular book.

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"Best Chinese Names Book - Your Guide to Auspicious Names" by Liu Xiaoyan and translated by Wu Jingyuu.
In fact, there is a preview of the contents by Google books here. A rather interesting read if you ask. I think I need to head down to Borders or Kinokuniya soon and try to fish out this book. Let me know if you see this book around in Singapore.

Monday, April 26, 2010

The Crown Prince Junior and his room

Crown prince. That's me. So the junior? Of course, it's the one in Hazel now. It is a boy!

Actually, I am equally happy regardless if it is a boy or a girl. The most important thing is that he or she will be healthy and Hazel's pregnancy is smooth sailing.

So the headache part is this...

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Erm, nope, it is not the mess that I am worried. (though the puzzle is like only 1% completed)

I am a little hesitant on color for a baby boy. Purple? That's like quite gay you know. Well, I only have a few choices.

Either

1) Repaint the room to something like blue or
2) Paste cool stickers on the wall and decorate it to be more boyish

Argh, why did we choose such a girly color in the first place....

How how how??

Sunday, April 25, 2010

How to bathe a baby



This has to be the most unnerving thing that I will be doing in a few months time. I can't imagine how I am going to do that. I mean...a baby's limbs are so small and fragile. And the skull isnt fully formed!!! Cham lah! Worried!

Technique to stop baby crying?






Saw this floating around on the net. I really wonder how true this is....will be wonderful if it really works!

Friday, April 16, 2010

Dad For Life Singapore


I am always on the lookout for local parenting sites. You could actually find many parenting sites but they are more catered for mummies than daddy. This morning I chanced upon a site that is catered for the daddy out there. Very informative site.

It is in fact an initative of the National Family Council. Go take a look at the site!

Thursday, April 15, 2010

Confinement - What is it?

Confinement. A term that is commonly heard in Singapore or perhaps East Asian countries. 坐月子 is what they call it or loosely translated to sitting the month. Traditionally, it literally means confinement...sitting in the house for one month. The pregnant women who has just given birth is not allowed to go out of the house for one whole month. In extreme (and very unhygienic) cases, they are not allowed to bathe!

Of course, being who I am, I am not one that do follow cultures or religion strictly, I loathe the idea of confinement. But I know I will have to face it soon since I am a Chinese Singaporean. It started with my mum nagging and pushing me to find a confinement lady to help Hazel for her confinement period. Initially, both of us kinda dislike the idea of having a total stranger staying in the house for one whole month. This will mean that I have to secure everything in my house, lock up precious and expensive stuff etc. That also mean that I cannot walk around in the house with just my bottom! Hahaha. We were quite sold on the idea of just having a local lady to help her cook "nutritious" food for the confinement period and then leave the house at night.

But recently, we changed our plans. We thought and many people also advised that we should get a stay in confinement lady as Hazel will be extremely tired after birth and needs her good night rest. And so, we searched. Typically confinement ladies are from Malaysia and will cost around $1.8 to $2.3K. This particular lady cost us $2.2K not including food that I need to pay for and to buy mattress and cupboard for her. The whole confinement thing will probably cost me $3K at the end of it. I would say well spent if she is that good. We shall see.

In fact, Singaporean Chinese are so fussy about confinement that you can actually just google "confinement food" and tons of website pops up that offer confinement food delivery etc. Good business I guess. They have to eat a lot of ginger, take ginger water, red dates water, etc, the list goes on.

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Financial preparation before birth


As I work in a multi-cultural, multi-racial and multi-national industry/company, I had the chance to ask around how much it cost for someone like in India or even nearby Malaysia to visit a gynae and give birth. I was not at all astounded by their reply. The amount that you have to cough out to get respectable health care for mums are probably around three to four times as much as one that sees their doctor in Malaysia and up to six times as much as the counterparts in India. We were not spared from this rising cost in visiting a gynae in Singapore.

I definitely wanted Hazel to have a respectable health care for herself and the baby. She did quite a lot of homework to search through various websites/forums and look for recommendations. Our new "family" doctor (the one downstairs) also recommended a gynae called Dr. Yvonne Chan. She is quite known for her pro natural birth and her skills. We went ahead to make a booking for our first gynae appointment sometime back during her first trimester in Jan 2010. Unfortunately, Dr Yvonne Chan was fully booked. Actually, I am glad that the receptionist is doing a good job by arranging the schedule properly and avoiding long waits at the clinic.

We then proceed to our second choice, Dr. Adelina Wong and we continued with her till now. During my first visit, I was quite surprised that she looked quite young. However, when I see her in action, I put myself at ease as it is very clear that she is very skilled and knowledgable in what she does. You can visit her website here. The plus point is also that she make sures that she is not overbooked and the waiting time so far has been quite short. I usually take half day leave to accompany Hazel (She gets MC!!) and we are there by 2pm and usually finished by around 3pm+. She also make sure that you have all your questions answered before you leave and she does take effort in trying to ease any worries or concerns that you have. You will feel that you are in good hands. And that is very important! The visit does not feel that commercialized..though....the rates....are....a little....high....

Back to the rates, we have spent about SGD2200 for all the visits till date. She is at her 19th week now and that amount includes the First Born Incentive we signed up at Thomson Medical Center. It also includes the checks for down syndrome and the package we took up from Dr Adelina etc. Quite hefty ya?

Saturday, April 10, 2010

The beginnings...

I have been toying with the idea of creating a new blog about my experiences in becoming a father to be and then of my newborn. And here it is. Of course, as with my main blog I aim to update this blog on a minimum 2 day interval basis.

Being a father is kind of unnerving for me, you can say that I was not really prepared and I can say that I still do not feel prepared yet for the newborn.We planned on this baby and we were blessed that my wife was soon pregnant after discussing that we should not wait any longer.

I was extremely happy when I learnt that she was pregnant! It was delightful to me and that happiness has still not reduced in any sense. I have a very loving, patient and caring wife! I can see that she is also very delighted that she is pregnant. And oh, I think our baby also sat in that 80km/h roller coaster when we were in Korean. I think the baby will grow up into an adventorous person! Ho ho ho.

Being a father at my age was probably quite normal and not too late. I think my own dad became a dad with me at a much younger age. (Hmmm, I should go find out). However, it is my first time and I am anxious! There are so many things to think of....gynaes, confinements, baby room, names, infant care, etc and the list goes on and on. Everyday I am reading the web about kids now! Hahaha.
Stay tuned!

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